How to Write a Love Letter

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A love letter is one of the simplest and most cherished ways of telling and showing your partner how you feel about them. While it may seem like a daunting task, especially for non-writers, it's much easier than you think! Follow the 7 steps below yo write your loved one an incredibly romantic love letter today.

1. Use Stationery

We recommend going traditional here as there's nothing more romantic than a classic, hand-written love letter on delicate stationery. By stationery, we don't mean grab a piece of paper from the printer or construction paper from your kid's room. If you want a truly memorable and romantic love letter, head to the store and pick out something delicate and classic.

While we recommend going the traditional route with your love letter, keep in mind that it's not absolutely necessary. You can write a romantic love letter via email or post it on your loved one's Facebook wall if you'd like and it can still be very romantic and heartfelt.

Should it be handwritten or typed? We prefer the personalized touch of a handwritten love letter and recommend you go with this method for the added touch of romance. However, if you truly hate your penmanship or feel you'll make too many errors, go ahead and type it out. Regardless of the presentation that you choose, it's the content of the love letter that really matters.

2. Start with an Intimate Salutation

The salutation is their "first impression", so make sure you use something other than the standard "Dear (name)"! Here are a few suggestions:

  • To my beloved,
  • Dearest (name),
  • My lovely (name),
  • My dear wife (name),

The point is to tap into your feelings and address your partner in a sincere, but intimately romantic way.

3. Write, Write, Write!

Now it's time to get to the love letter itself. The key here is be detailed, intimate, and romantic.

If you find yourself with block, read love letters written by other people for some inspiration. Here's a collection of sample love letters to help you get started.

Here are a few suggestions of things you may want to include in your love letter:

Moving Moments

Think of those times in your relationship that were truly memorable and write about the events in detail, describing why they moved you, what made them special and memorable, how they made you feel about your partner, and how they changed your relationship. Include emotional and physical feelings that you experienced and how they affected you and your relationship.

What You Love About Them and How They Make You Feel

Flatter your partner with a few mentions of the traits that you love the most about them or ways they make you a better person. I'd recommend focusing on the traits that really define your partner. Are they caring and compassionate? Are they kind and sensitive? Does their smile brighten your day? Does their sense of humor always make you laugh?

While I don't discourage mentioning things such as looks (everyone wants to know that their partner finds them attractive!), be sure to add it in the mix rather than focusing on it exclusively. You can even include some sensual feelings, but try not to go overboard or get too erotic. The key here is balance.

Your Future Together

Include a few comments about your future together, what you're looking forward to, things you want to do together, dreams you want to fulfill together, etc. Giving your partner insight into goals and dreams that you hold for you as a couple will make them feel loved and cherished.

If you haven't been together for long time, keep this a little lighter and instead let your boyfriend or girlfriend know how excited you are to see them again, how you feel when you're apart, and things you want to do together in the foreseeable future.

4. End with an Intimate Signature

Sign the letter with something more than just your name such as:

  • Yours,
  • Yours forever,
  • Love always and forever,
  • Infinitely yours,

End with your name or pet name that your significant other always calls you.

5. Include a P.S.

Leave them with one last thought, something to linger on, remember, or ponder. It could be as simple as another "I love you", something silly like an inside joke, or even some XXX's and OOOO's (hugs and kisses).

6. Add a Personal Touch

Put on your favorite lipstick and kiss the paper next to your signature or add a quick spritz of your partner's favorite cologne/perfume that you often wear.

7. Sealed With A Kiss (SWAK)!

It's time to seal it with a kiss and put it in the mail. Sure, you could slip it in your partner's purse or surprise them with it in their car, or even email it. We prefer the classic snail mail version though and find it incredibly romantic to open a beautiful love letter that's arrived via postal mail.

Put your letter in a matching envelope (remember that pretty stationery?) and add a personal touch to the outside such as a lipstick kiss over the sealed potion, a simple "I love you", or a mysterious "From your secret admirer" (even though they'll discover your identity when they open the letter!)

If you decide against mailing your love letter, try rolling it up like a scroll and tying a pretty ribbon around it. Then slip it in some personal location. You could even leave it on your partner's pillow to find before bed.