I met this guy through my friends about a year ago. On the first night I met him, My friends told me that he liked me. I told my friends that he seems to be a nice guy. We never went out, but I had some nice conversations with him. I mentioned to him that I was going through some family health problems and that I wasn't ready for a relationship. He said he understood and that he really likes talking to me. Well I have been going out and having fun with other friends and doing more things.

Everytime I see him we always talk and have good conversations. He flirts with me and I try to flirt back. Anyways, Last summer one of my friends told me he has a "GIRLFRIEND". I was like what a "GIRLFRIEND"! My friend told me that she didn't think the relationship with the "GIRLFRIEND" was serious considering he had a private session with a stripper. Anyways, I saw him shortly after at my friend's house and we talked and he never mentioned that he had a "GIRLFRIEND". So then I kept meeting him at my friend's house and we would hang out and play games and talk until the wee hours of the night. Still no mention of the "GIRLFRIEND"! I was over my friend's house around Christmas time and had a party and he showed still no "GIRLFRIEND"! (I would of thought that around the holidays he would of brought her over to the party) Anyways, While at the party he came up to me and asked me "Where have you been hiding out at these past few weeks" I told him that i haven't been "hiding out" anywhere. I have been hanging out with other friends etc... . I have developed feelings for him. He has never treated me badly. After recently finding out again through friends that he has a "GIRLFRIEND". I do not know what to do. I think its my fault in a way considering I refused to pursue a relationship with him when I first met him. Now that I think I knew I hear through the "grapevine" that he has a "GIRLFRIEND". Am I on his "back burner". Do I wait for his so called relationship to end so I can have a chance? Do I tell him how I feel and hopefully he will kick her to the curb??

Shannon

There are a few things that come to mind. One, he may not want you to know about the girlfriend because he wants to still be your friend and is afraid you wont be his friend anymore because he has a girlfriend. Two, maybe this girl is a casual thing and doesnt see the need to tell you about it. And last, it may be that he wants to be with you, but you already rejected him so he isn't sure what he wants.