Should you live together before marriage?

admin · **Joined:** Sun Aug 17, 2003 6:12 pm **Posts:** 27

This should spark some debate! :lol:

Do you personally feel that couple's should live together before marriage or no? Pros and cons?

Arika6 · **Posted:** Mon Jun 05, 2006 3:31 pm

I think that if a person is going to choose to spend the rest of their life with a person, then they need to make sure that they can be around them a lot. I read an article about this girl who said that her and her boyfriend were very in love and after they married they moved in together and he moved out two weeks later because they couldn't stand being around each other that often. I am very young and my boyfriend lives at my house... living alone with each other and living with parents is very different, but I know that it has helped me to be sure that I really cannot live without this person and no matter what I say, in the end I always want to be with him. I just think that you should build a good relationship before you jump because moving in with someone can cause a strong bond and a person could mistake this bond for their ideal relationship when really they are just so used to having this person there that no matter how bad this person could be, you get used to having them there. Marriage is a big and important decision and to think people get married two weeks after dating.

Rekralc · **Posted:** Mon Jul 09, 2007 4:24 pm

Tomorrow I'll be celebrating my boyfriend and I's second anniversary. We've been living together for a year and a half and there are definitely pros and cons.

Pros:
- Learning their ways (do they clean up after themselves, do they have shadows in their closet, how do they handle money, how do they spend their down time)
- Being able to be with the one you love all the time.
- Having some idea of what marriage with this person will be like.

Cons:
- More than likely the idea of marriage will be pushed off more than if you weren't living together.
- The marriage and honeymoon isn't as blissfull.
- Marriage isn't as special because it isn't a change of lifestyle.

As much as I've loved my life with my boyfriend if I had it to do all over again I think i'd make a different decision. It's easy to push a proposal off when you are already reaping the benefits.

And as for the girl who commented on her boyfriend living with her and her parents... I lived with this guy and his parents at first and it's not the same. You don't learn how responsible he is with bills, grocery shopping, cleaning up after himself until you have a home of your own.

bigbrother08 · **Joined:** Tue Aug 07, 2007 4:34 am **Posts:** 2

It is very interesting to me to see the few responses that have responded. Many people today feel that living together before marriage has many benefits, and many are torn, there are pros and there are cons. However, if people would just think for a moment and realize the origin of marriage, then they would see that being married before living together makes sense and is the better choice. If you are with someone that claims to really love you, but won't commit to marrying you, perhaps you need to question that persons true motives. Sure, people are hurt in past relationships, but who of us will never get back on a bicycle after falling and getting hurt? The point is, Trust and Love go hand in hand. Marriage is a bond of commitment and without it, you really have nothing. And for those who feel that marriage can just be fixed by divorce, I feel really bad for you. The question is, Are You Worth Being Committed To By Someone Who Claims To Love You? You're darn right you are! So if you have a loved one that wants to move in before marriage, ask them why? It's up to you! Are You Worth It? Like yourself, Love yourself.

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angee818 · **Joined:** Fri Aug 24, 2007 9:34 am **Posts:** 1

Absolutely not! The bible calls this fornication? Hello!!

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