Tips for Showing a Man You Like Him Without Going Overboard

When he tells you that you look gorgeous, don't respond by paying him a compliment in return. Instead, say, "You make me feel gorgeous." Trust me -- he will love this much more than hearing that he's handsome, because his main concern should be pleasing you.

Spontaneously comment on something he's wearing and tell him how much you like it -- not to return a compliment he's paid you, but just because you want to.

Always thank him for taking you out and choosing a movie/restaurant/concert you enjoyed -- but don't thank him more than once -- once is enough.

Comment on things he talked about on previous dates; if you saw an article about something he's interested in, you can mention it. But don't cut that article out and bring it along, or e-mail it to him -- that's too much.

If he e-mails or texts you after your date to say what a nice time he had, respond in kind. But keep it short, and if he sends you another message, don't answer the second one.

Try not to contact him spontaneously with news of yours in the first month of dating, even if you think you have something to tell him that he'll really enjoy. He's not your boyfriend yet -- save that for later, when you've been going out for a while. But if he contacts you spontaneously, by all means don't keep him waiting too long for an answer.

Don't dump problems on him in the early stages of dating that he can't really help with (like a fight with your mother). But by all means ask him for practical help -- men adore showing you how to program your VCR or helping you plan a route for a trip you're taking. Helping a woman to fix a concrete, solvable problem always makes a man feel wonderful!

Copyright © 2005 Lauren Henderson

Excerpted from the book Jane Austen's Guide to Dating by Lauren Henderson. Copyright © 2005 Lauren Henderson. (Published by Hyperion; January 2005; $12.00US/$17.00CAN; 1-4013-0117-7)

Author
Lauren Henderson is a founding voice of the "tart noir" mystery genre and is the author of numerous novels, including the Sam Jones detective series and three romantic comedies of modern love and manners: My Lurid Past, Don't Even Think About It, and Exes Anonymous. She was raised in London, educated at Cambridge, where she wrote her dissertation on courtship rituals in Jane Austen, and currently resides in New York, where she is happily dating a Henry Tilney.

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wow, those are good. and it goes both ways. if a guy remembers and brings up a topic that i was previously interested in, i KNOW he likes me! of course you have to watch out for the slicks, but with experience they get easier to spot.