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A Woman's Guide to Flirting
So you want to flirt... or you want to learn how a man flirts. This guide for women cues you in on the basics of flirting with men and helps you learn how to know if he's flirting with you.
How to Tell if He's Flirting With You
When men flirt, they generally give off cues that exude their masculinity. If your notice that a guy is exhibiting any of these behaviors or gestures, then it's likely that he's flirting with you! Get your flirtatious grove on and flirt back.
These include:
Arches his back.
Sways his pelvis.
Laughs loudly.
Tugs his tie.
Clasps back of his neck.
Squares his shoulders.
Puffs his chest.
Stiffens his stance.
Teases you in a friendly manner.
Winks as you from a distance.
Smiles suggestively.
Engages in direct eye contact.
Casually touches you.
What to Watch Out For
Now that you know what to look for when flirting, here are few things that you want to avoid. If you notice a man exhibiting any of these behaviors, escape now.
He walks over with over-confidence.
He approaches in a controlling manner and dominates the conversation.
He invades your personal space right away.
How to Approach Him
If all has gone well and you've read his cues properly, he'll either approach you, or you can approach him. Tread carefully either way. If he's approaching, you don't want to do anything to undermine his confidence. Remember, it takes a lot for a man to just walk up to a woman and talk to her. If you're approaching him, remember that you're sending out signals during the approach that could make or break you before you even have a chance to talk!
Lock eyes for a few seconds, then drop your gaze. Eye contact is a sign of openness. Most men will pick up on this flirtatious and approach you.
If the guy is approaching you, be classy and charming. He's probably nervous and a bit worried about rejection. Take these into consideration and play nice.
While he's approaching, smile suggestively. Experts agree that smiling is one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive and approachable.
Once You're There.
Once he's arrived (or you have), it's time to get the conversation started.
Speak slowly and with direct statements rather than abstract ones. Remember that men are less 'feely' than women.
Laugh at his jokes, but don't overdo it.
Keep your eyes on him, but glance away. Men tend to not engage in direct eye contact as much as women.
Ask him about his job as Men tend to define themselves by their careers.
Find common ground. The most important aspect of your conversation is to find out what you have in common, be it hobbies, friends, jobs, or whatnot.
Don't talk about yourself too much. Answer his questions, but be sure to ask questions about him as well.
Other Things To Look For.
The way a man dresses gives you clues to his personality. Pay attention to the following:
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Eva North Carolina
Posted at 4:33am on Tuesday, June 16th, 2009
I've been a tomboy for most of my life and im trying to get out of it so that i can actually have a life. what should i do to get guys to notice me?
haha cali
Posted at 10:31pm on Tuesday, June 2nd, 2009
i like my b/f brother and i think hes into me to i think not sure he hasnt made ne moves i really jus want to mess around with him but not get caught i know its horrible but wut shuld i do?
Zoe England
Posted at 5:40pm on Sunday, May 31st, 2009
I like this guy that I would probably class as one of my best friends. We have got a lot closer over the last two weeks but I don't know whether he likes me in the same way. I will use these tips thanks xxx
Nat unknown
Posted at 2:59pm on Monday, May 25th, 2009
There is a boy that i have known for years and i am really attracted to him and it used to seem like he liked me as well. The only problem is that now he has a girlfriend and i dont think he knows how much i like him. i dont know what to do? Does any1 have advice for me???? plzzz!!!
rebekka burgdorf hastings michigan
Posted at 12:24pm on Wednesday, May 13th, 2009
i have been dating zach for a year and 3 months and i have used these ideas and they worked.. now he doesnt flirt with other girls and you can always see us together every where we go..
Jen South Carolina
Posted at 4:05am on Thursday, March 5th, 2009
For teens, guys generally don't do the over-masculinity thing, but if they're a friend may give more bodily contact than necessary, or try to change their voice.
jlm Location unknown
Posted at 5:49pm on Thursday, February 19th, 2009
i want a boyfriend
dimples sweet islang
Posted at 5:40pm on Tuesday, February 17th, 2009
Some guys flirt like dat but there are some of them do flirt just for d sexy girls wit few clothes on just bcuz they are sexy but d really gentle guys usually do that and dat is sexy
Kate Wales
Posted at 12:45pm on Sunday, February 8th, 2009
These are really helpfull tips. Although I have heard of a few of them, and practice a few of them on this guy I have my eye on...he must know I'm interested in him by now It's been 3 years!!
manna michigan
Posted at 2:19am on Thursday, February 5th, 2009
sometimes guys i know flirt just because they can. its really annoying and super confusing. watch out for guys like that
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