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A Man's Guide to Flirting
So you want to flirt... or you want to learn how a woman flirts. This guide for men cues you in on the basics of flirting with women and helps you learn how to know if she's flirting with you.
How to Tell if She's Flirting With You
Women give off several nonverbal, flirtatious cues to signify that they are interested and attracted to you. You simply need to know what they are and be observant enough to pick up on them! Most of these flirtatious cues exude sexual suggestiveness, so men may naturally pick up on them. However, the trained eye can pick up so much more. For instance, did you know that the most common flirtatious behavior a woman engages in is the hair flip. When a woman runs her fingers through her hair of flips her hair, she's generally trying to get your attention.
Here are more behaviors women engage in while flirting:
Sways her hips while walking.
Tilts her head and/or exposes her neck.
Licks or bites her lips.
Tosses, plays, or twirls her hair.
Crosses and uncrosses her legs.
Slips her foot in and out of her shoe.
Holds a lingering gaze a few seconds longer than usual.
Giggles or laughs when you laugh.
Engages in friendly teasing.
Winks at you.
Smiles suggestively.
Casually touches to your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand.
Raises or lowers her voice volume to match yours.
Touches her cheek.
Exposes her palms.
Has tall, straight posture while sitting or walking
Puts her fingernail between her teeth.
Plays with her jewelry.
Raises her eyebrows.
Wears sexy clothes or shows suggestive cleavage.
What to Watch Out For
Now that you know what to look for when flirting, here are few things that you want to avoid. If you notice a woman exhibiting any of these behaviors, it generally means that she's not interested and that it's time to move on.
She's hunched over.
She taps her fingers on the table or on her glass.
She taps her foot or keeps her legs uncrossed.
She won't look you directly in the eye.
How to Approach Her
If all has gone well and you've read her cues properly, it's time to approach her. Tread carefully here though because you're sending out signals while approaching her that could make or break you before you even have a chance to talk to her!
Have self-confidence and exude this when walking towards her. Keep your head held high and your chest out.
Smile. Smile. Smile.
Keep it easy going and carefree.
Don't immediately invade her personal space as it's an aggressive behavior and will generally scare her off.
Have a good opening line prepared and practiced. You can choose based on the situation, but make sure that it's unique, clever, and most definitely not cheesy or overly suggestive. Humor tends to work well.
Tell her your name and that you'd like to spend some time with her talking.
Once You're There.
Once you're there, it's time to get the conversation started.
Speak openly and honestly.
Nod or give verbal cues such as 'uh huh' or 'yeah' to show that you're listening and validating her comments.
A little humor is always a good thing. Did you know that the majority of women say that they're looking for someone who can make them laugh?
Don't talk about yourself too much. Answer her questions, but be sure to ask questions about her as well.
Find common ground. The most important aspect of your conversation is to find out what you have in common, be it hobbies, friends, jobs, or whatnot.
Remember that while most men define themselves by their job or career, women are generally more interested in you spend your off time. Make sure that you let her know.
Other Things To Look For.
The way a woman dresses gives you clues to his personality. Pay attention to her clothing, right down to her shoes, and you'll learn more about her.
Is she dressed seductively with cleavage showing?
Is she wearing open-toed sandals? The more open her shoes are, the more willing she is to be open with you.
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Don't ask the world
Posted at 10:26pm on Thursday, September 4th, 2008
I'm a girl (dont ask how i got here) and i agree that if you walked up, with out being over confident, and without invading my space, and dont freak out (if you're a bit nervous, try and hide it, but accidently-on-purpose let it show, girls like that), then you'd have at least two minutes with me. Not all girls are like that, but its worth a try. Good luck!
Chris Canada
Posted at 7:52am on Tuesday, August 19th, 2008
Wow some of you are so pathetic. Even if your a complete loser and have nothing, approach a women with confidence and she will give you at least a couple minutes of her time. If your confident then it shows her theres a reason you have self confidence and you must have some good qualities
Gerty CANADA
Posted at 1:47am on Thursday, July 24th, 2008
they dont work i fear i will be alone for ever.
Ben O-Town, Texas
Posted at 5:25am on Saturday, July 5th, 2008
I've been in love with someone for a long time now. She was my first love and we dated for a year. She ended up sleeping with a guy who I called my 'best friend' through high school. So things didn't work out too well. Now I find it five years later, and I still think about her often. I don't think it's an obsession, but I really believe I still love her with all my heart. And to make things more complicated I have had a steady girlfriend for the past three years. And things between us are bumpy to say the least. She doesn't understand me, and I doubt she ever will. Her dad hasn't exactly been the best example for her and her mom was always cheating on her dad in front of her when she was younger until she eventually ended up moving to Las Vegas and marrying a guy for his money. Where's Dr. Phil??
Alany usa
Posted at 7:42pm on Tuesday, May 13th, 2008
i do all those things normally everyday and nothing happens
Sameer India
Posted at 11:17am on Saturday, April 26th, 2008
We have been friends since past two years......lately i started sending her messages starting from Jokes to Quotes then to Feelings then "Missing you messages". But she asked me not to send "such messages" and it has been more than 15 days i haven't chat or msged her . Its just a Hi whenever we meet in office. Besides that nothing else. Now i dont understand what to do! and i dont want to lose her since i love her more than my life.....Pls suggest people what should i do now.
besiaka california
Posted at 6:13pm on Thursday, April 17th, 2008
Sorry, but in my girly opinion most of the flirtation signs are bull, I giggle, and laugh with my friends when i don't flirt, i play with my hair (bad habit) i usually sit with my legs crossed, i hold my hand against my cheek when i am totally bored, i sit and stand straight all the time, i raise my eyebrows when i am surprised / shocked / upset, shoe thing is ridiculous, and i play with my engagement ring all the time, especially when i am bored,
non of these would indicate flirting. every woman is different, and non of these generalizations seem to fit very well
jabbi India
Posted at 8:56pm on Sunday, April 13th, 2008
My partner dusnt listen to me but i listen to him all the time.. im very open and dont speak about myself oo such i dont know what im doing worng
dude funky town
Posted at 10:06pm on Monday, April 7th, 2008
i love a girl and i dont know what to do
charles mutinda kenya
Posted at 2:46pm on Thursday, April 3rd, 2008
well, it mojorly depends on personality but majority of ladies have those traits. with the open shoes i have doubts
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