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How to Get Back Into Dating

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Dear Dr. Neder:

I have been divorced for 16 years and focused most of that time on raising my two children. I have dated a few men however I seem to be attracted to losers. Now that my kids are grown I would like to find someone to settle down with again. It is hard to find single men my age. My children keep reminding me ".you're not getting any younger."

What can I do?


Hello!

What can you do? A bunch!

The key is to expand your social network. The more people you meet (or can meet) the more non-loser guys you'll find. Pretty simple math, really.

If you live in or around a major metropolitan area like Los Angeles, New York, Washington DC, Dallas or literally ANY major city, you have a ton of resources at your disposal.

Use Google to find searches related your major city and "social" or "single". There are tons of organizations right there in your own backyard that are all about expanding your network.

For instance, here in Los Angeles where I live, there are probably over 200 such networking groups meeting this weekend alone! I know of one that has over 800 members! Do you think you'd be able to meet a nice guy there? You bet you would.

Another option is a hobby. For 16 years, your hobby was raising your kids. Now it should change. There are tons and tons of fun things to do out there. Find something you've never tried and look into it. What's cool about that is that there are a bunch of organizations dedicated to whatever hobby you select - and a bunch of great guys there too. Just get involved and you'll meet men.

There are even more opportunities through classes at your local community college. Adult education classes are all over the place and you can find all sorts of fun things to learn. Just be sure to select a class where guys will be. Yoga and cooking classes probably aren't your best bet, but there are a bunch of others.

Judy, the trick is to get involved. You have to get outside your current comfort zone in order to do this, but don't wait for your girlfriends to join you. Go alone if you can and here's why: as a single woman, all you need to do is to find the organizer of the club and tell him/her that you're new. They'll take you under their wing to help you meet all sorts of people - and those people will help you to meet others!

Trust me, this is a great way to expand that network and start dating again.

Best regards...



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Author of Being a Man in a Woman's World, Dr. Dennis Neder is dedicated to advancing the arts and sciences of relationships. His mantra: start having the relationships you deserve! New articles are posted every Wednesday!

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