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Women Have Fantasies Too

© Nancy Fagan-Murphy, M.S.

Sexual fantasies are an intriguing subject...and not only men have them. The truth is, women have them too, but they are limited to three general types. Women can be just as sexual as a man if he learns what fantasy buttons to push.

In order to rouse a woman's fantasies, it takes a little work. First of all, when you set out to stimulate your partner, you need to narrow your focus down to the three specific types of fantasies: 1. Women with women, 2. Women in Control, and 3. Sexually insatiable.

Too often, when using fantasies, men include the things that turn themselves on rather than what arouses a woman. Unfortunately, this is the quickest way to turn a woman off. Women have specific requirements in their fantasies, primarily, a slow building pace before and after the sex act. As a matter of fact, the non-sexual touching is equally arousing to a woman. When using fantasies with your partner, pay close attention to the core elements in each of the types listed below and include those details during fantasy talk.

Fantasy One: Women with Women. This fantasy is alluring to women because its primary activities consists of two aspects of sex that women crave: oral satisfaction and tenderness. The key to this fantasy is slow seduction. It begins with caressing and holding, builds to passionate, mutual orgasms, and finishes the way it began-tenderly.

Fantasy Two: Women in Control. The central theme in this fantasy is a woman who has the power to maker her partner cum. This is the woman who plays the controlling seductress whether it's through the role of dominatrix, exhibitionist, or any number of controlling women roles that turn a man on. Her arousal comes from watching a man lose his control to her.

Fantasy Three: Sexually Insatiable. Unlike the other two types of fantasies, this one is more "manly" because the focus is on the sex act. Common themes in these fantasies are: engaging in forbidden love, oral sex, multiple orgasms, orgies, public sex, and anything involving sexually adventurous actions.

The easiest way to begin is to start out slowly. You might, for instance, bring up the topic of sexual fantasies. All you need to say is, "Which of the following three would turn you on more? At that time, mention the fantasies above. The mere act of talking about it will arouse her.

So, if you want to turn your partner on through sexual fantasies, all you have to do is start talking about the subject. It may be a slow process, but it's guaranteed to create an insatiable woman!



About the Author
Nancy Fagan-Murphy, M.S., author of "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Romance" and "Desirable Men: How to Find Them."