On questions like: How to talk to women, what to say to them, how to approach them, should you bring a flower on that first date...some men think that the advice should come from the men, After all, they say, they are the ones who are doing it; that you should ask the men who have success with women. And, they say, "women don't know what they want. They are too indecisive."
On the surface this does seem to make sense. There are indeed a lot of women who really don't know what they want. But, if one was to look at this closely, you may find another point of view. Let's look at this more closely, and think about this:
When you compare the sexes, do you think that there are probably just as many men who are the same way…because they think with their hormones? One moment he wants this particular woman, the next he changes his mind to another type of woman. Are some men indecisive like this?
Also, could it be that it isn't that women don't know what they want, it's that many men can't understand them; there is this misunderstanding between the sexes, which in turn makes it seem like they don't know what they want???
For example:
Many women say they like "nice guys," but they don't date them. They date jerks. This is a classic misunderstanding between the sexes. She wants to be with that nice guy. It's just that he is TOO nice. He always tries to please her. He acts like a doormat. While, on the other hand, the "jerk" doesn't act like that. Many women will stay in a relationship, if you want to call it that, because they are hoping that they can get rid of that part in him that they don't like. They will try to change him. They want a man to act like a man, but at the same time...be a nice man.
"I Will Always Pay Attention To MEN'S BEHAVIOR That Attracts Women."
We read this recently from a gentleman who firmly believes a man should get dating advice from another man who can get the women. If you want to know what words to use to best get that date with a stranger, listen to a guy who has already done it. Men shouldn't listen to women because women don't ask other women out, so how would they know what works and what doesn't?
Does this also seem to make sense? Well, let's take another look at this one also.
It's true that one should listen to the man who knows how to attract the women, and get dates, but, what should be looked more closely is what kind of women is he able to get dates with? If he usually dates easy women, who have no character to them, what does that tell you? If you are looking for a serious relationship with that, RIGHT woman, should you listen to him?
Here's another thing to think about. Men who say that you shouldn't ask women on how to ask them out and the best way to approach them is because they don't ask out other women. Well that one really doesn't make sense. No, they don't ask each other out, BUT, they do get approached by men! What if you asked your female friend if such and such line would work to best break the ice with her. She can tell you if it would work with her. After all, you aren't asking the man out!
Here's another thing to think about. How would you feel if your female friend, or a coworker asked you for dating advice on how to get a guy to ask her out? She asked you what your favorite perfume is, how you would feel if a woman asked you for a date, etc., etc. Well, why should she ask you? Shouldn't she ask a woman?
You see, once you better understand women, and take another look at the bottom line to all of this, you will realize that they do indeed know what they want (Well, most women, that is. There are many screwy ones out there), and that it is better to listen to women on the best way to get dates with them. You just have to understand their thinking better, just like they need to better understand our thinking also.
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lorraine Location unknown
Posted at 7:00pm on Friday, May 27th, 2011
It shouldn't be a one-man blame. For me, being on a relationship or involving yourself into dating requires 2 persons to be able to do it. So if couples find it difficult to start up a date or a relationship, the problem must be between the two. For most women, it is the issue of jealousy in relationships that hinders them to trust guys because guys are known to be uncommitted. For men, girls are known to be "tussi" as they say in German, or very picky when it comes to love.
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Posted at 6:59pm on Friday, May 27th, 2011
It shouldn't be a one-man blame. For me, being on a relationship or involving yourself into dating requires 2 persons to be able to do it. So if couples find it difficult to start up a date or a relationship, the problem must be between the two. For most women, it is the issue of jealousy in relationships that hinders them to trust guys because guys are known to be uncommitted. For men, girls are known to be "tussi" as they say in German, or very picky when it comes to love.
Billy Sask, Canada
Posted at 7:34pm on Sunday, May 16th, 2010
I definately agree that lines of communication need to open up. I dated several girls in high school but didn't have to deal with rejection until after I moved out on my own. Guy's are left out on their own, women just don't help out with advice on where your going wrong and what you can improve on. Its no wonder there are some many guy's frustrated with women. We're not made with a natural instinct on how woman work. We need to work together to improve things. This stuff about women on wanting guy's who know what there doing (real men) and having to train them just isn't working anymore. Women need to change their outlook on dating and work together more with us.
kritin portland,tn
Posted at 7:41am on Wednesday, April 7th, 2010
wow u guys are lame. seriously the first person with tha whole blahahah stuff, reall?? no girls can give dating advice beacause guess what?? were tha ones ur planning on dating moron! so of course we know what we want and its easier to protray it when u give advice about it. mabie you should shut up and take her advice cuz if your on this site, then obviously u arent gettin very many dates and u need all the help u can get idiot! Also Dwaun Marshall, dont give up man! That when everything goes all down hill is when u stop trying. Never frown, because you never know whos falling in love with your smile! Everyone is dashing in their own little wayy so do your self a favor buy a new outfit, one you'd never see yourself in, get some new stunna shades and go out. Be yourself have fun and dont worry about getting turned down, because for every gurl that turns you down, its only eliminateing the ones you dont belong with and gets you one step closer to the person your meant to be with.
GGww BG
Posted at 8:59pm on Friday, April 18th, 2008
I really believe that dating advice from women shoudn't be taken. Really... if you ask your female friend about this subject she will throw you all kinds of blablabla. Well, then try this blablablabla on her and see if she, who said it, would respond to it. The more direct approach is to ask her straight what you do to become her boyfriend... she will most certainly say that you can't with her because blablablabla (some female rationalization). Strange thing is the female logic. So, advice from women for women... forget it.
bob gig harbor, wa
Posted at 9:43pm on Tuesday, October 30th, 2007
i agree, communication is key to resolving any problems, that and flowers too
Dwaun Marshall Chicago, IL
Posted at 4:38am on Monday, June 25th, 2007
My experience with asking women out is lukewarm, I often wonder
If God put me in the world to be
The only left standing without an
help mate, I can't grasp that. Because I've been rejected at least
100's of times by some at school, at the mall, in my community and
At possibly at church. I just don't
think I'm cut out to be a dashing
heterosexual type of a guy.
My experiences are so bad,
I'm not asking anyone or dating
ever again, until I'm 57.
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