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Bringing Romantic Fantasies to Life

© Nancy Fagan-Murphy, M.S.

One of the most enjoyable parts of having a relationship is being able to fulfill your romantic fantasies. You know, the one about being swept off your feet by a knight in shining armor or rescuing the damsel in distress?

Knights and damsels are a thing of the past, but romantic fantasies still exist. A romantic fantasy is something important to you that is missing in your love life. It's what you think about in your quiet time. If only you had it, your life would be more complete.

In this article, you will learn how your romantic fantasies can come true by learning how to make them happen. All dreams need work to become realities. Whether you are in a relationship or not, you can still formulate your plan of action to make your romantic dreams come true.

Romantic fantasies are different for everyone. Each fantasy takes on a life of its own with a unique feeling, tone, and theme. Some people have simple fantasies; other people's fantasies are very detailed. One thing that is common with all romantic fantasies is the element of desiring something that you don't already have in your life and that can only come through a romantic partner.

Sharing Your Fantasy

Many times, both partners in a relationship have fantasies that they would like to share with their partners, but they don't reveal them. Sharing a fantasy can make you vulnerable. Fantasies also can evoke strong emotions. For these reasons, fantasies are usually kept private. To present your secret thoughts to someone can take courage.

One of the biggest barriers to sharing a fantasy with your partner is erroneous assumptions. No one can read another person's mind. Yet it's easy to come up with many reasons why you think your partner would not want to live out a fantasy with you.

Telling Your Partner What You Want

How do you tell your partner about your romantic fantasies? It's easy. All you have to do is be clear about what you want and then tell your partner. I know it sounds easier to do than it is, but what do you have to lose? If you have someone who loves you, that person may be more eager to make you happy than you think.

The first step to telling your partner about your romantic fantasy is to think about what you want. Then write the fantasy down in one sentence. Have your partner write his or her fantasy down, too:

Do you see how easy that was? Now that you have written it down, you should be clear about what you want. The next step is to share the fantasy with your partner. Go ahead, he won't bite! I promise!



About the Author
Nancy Fagan-Murphy, M.S., author of "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Romance" and "Desirable Men: How to Find Them."