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There Will Always Be A Man Out There Right For You
A woman without a man cannot meet a man, any man...without thinking, even if it's for a half-second, perhaps this is the man." - Doris Lessing
It doesn't matter what you look like when trying to attract the opposite sex. Well, almost. Skinny, overweight, short, tall, blue hair, no hair, no brains, no personality snobs…. There is always, and will always be a man out there right for you! For all of us our problem is trying to find that right person. It can be a long, hard search for that right mate who can make us feel good and is at least compatible with us in certain areas.
We do a variety of things in order to meet this person, such as going to bars and putting ads in papers and magazines. One guy I know of advertised for a wife on a billboard along an interstate! Hey, whatever works. There are a lot of books that explains where to find this compatible mate, but I never much cared for this advice because it's just common sense! You can meet people ANYWHHERE: Bars, nightclubs, gyms, stores, and through your friends and Bank. You can even bump into them out on the street. YOU CAN MEET THEM ANYWHERE! The problem lies on WHAT to say at that precise moment of a chance meeting, like bumping into him at your grocery store, or when you are out and about, trying to find that right person. For a woman who is trying to find just any man is a piece of cake. It's finding that RIGHT man is what's the pain in the ass.
There are times when you just want to give up. Or worse, be with a man who isn't your type or treats you like crap! Being with a man who isn't your type is next to the worst thing that you can possibly do. The worst thing you can do to yourself is to be with a man who isn't your type and doesn't treat you right. You have to know that there is a man out there right for you. You just have to be patient enough to wait. Don't settle for just any man because he's the only one who asked you out. Just wait, because your time will come.
Don't Ever Change Yourself To Please A Man
Do you think it's possible for a woman to change her tastes in clothes, music, or even the way she looks, just because of a man? … Of course. Even men do this, especially when they let their little fella do the thinking for them. WHIPPED! It can even go as far as him not liking her friends, so he asks her to stop seeing them. In the end she has lost her identity of who she once was. Many of us, including men, after finding a good thing after a dating slump can easily land up changing everything about them, just to please this new love in their lives.
Some women don't want to go back to being alone, so when he starts making little suggestions on the way she looks, or gets her to take up a hobby that interest him but not her, she then may find herself being a totally different person; one she may not like. In the end his little suggestions can turn into demands. And she will give in because she doesn't want to go back to being alone. She may feel that having him for company is better than being alone. She lands up changing everything about herself just to please him so he won't leave. She revolves her world around him.
This can have more damaging consequences than she may realize. She may wake up to this fact and lose respect in herself. Worse still, if she is with the wrong man, one who always puts her down, telling her that she can't do anything, she will then eventually turn into a person who has low self-esteem, because of what he has been telling her...over and over again. She will then project this kind of person to all the other people around her. She will go from a positive thinking, energetic person, to one who is the total opposite. If we are told over and over again that we can't do anything, then we can't. If we are told that we can do whatever it is we dream of doing, then we can.
Sometimes when you date a real jerk, his persona can rub off on you. His negative, asinine thinking can soon become yours. He can tell you negative things about yourself so many times that it can leave you feeling in your heart that you're truly are not worth anything. You then project that feeling through the way you look, walk, and talk.
What happens if you break up with this guy but you are still stuck with this attitude about yourself? The chances are that you may attract men with the very same qualities. Then the process begins all over again. This time though it's you who will be attracting these kinds of men. It's ironic how this can work out, isn't it?
Girls who are in their teens are more prone to this kind of behavior. If you have a daughter, you may already know this. It's sort of like peer pressure, going along with the crowd (smoking, dressing like she came from another planet, listening to hard rock, talking back to you...) just because everybody else is doing it. We all know, especially you mothers, that some girls can be easily changed into a different person by her new boyfriend. She loves him, she doesn't want to lose him, so she'll do things she would not have done otherwise. Tattoos, a punk-style look, and talking back to you are the norm. Sound familiar?
Men Always Breaking Up With You Can Also Change You
Have you ever felt that maybe there could be something wrong with you because men keep breaking up with you? They either stop calling or they just want to be friends. Either way, you just lost another man. This can give anybody a negative, insecure feeling about themselves if done enough times. It just keeps building up until that person may feel that he / she isn't good enough; that person isn't attractive enough. They may project that feeling through the way they look, walk, and talk. To rid themselves of this, they may just go out with any man. Now does this sound familiar??? Sometimes that's just the way it is. Too many people blame themselves when they get in one of those slumps.
This is another thing that can transform their personalities to the point where they are less attractive to the opposite sex. And for you, who will you attract? … THE JERKS?
Wait for that right man who will make you feel alive and good about yourself. You should feel happy that you are with him. Anything less and you'll be starting all over again. If you have ever been alone for a long spell, it's still better to be alone rather than with a jerk. You will not only be wasting your time but will also be damaging your persona at the same time.
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